In many divorce cases the women tend to gain custody of the children more frequently than the fathers, even if the fathers are better equipped for taking care of their children. Gender roles, of course, are the main cause behind this. Us females are taught from a young age how to care for children and a family, so these judges rule in the mothers favor. Even if the father wins custody of his children, he's at a distinct disadvantage because men are rarely taught the same things as women. When was the last time you saw a parent give their son a baby doll?
What are your thoughts on this topic?
Action figures are better than baby dolls though.
ReplyDeleteI can't argue with that
DeleteI think that it is a difficult issue. Pizza bagels are much better.
ReplyDeleteWhat's wrong with just having pizza? Why roll it up and ruin the beautiful looks of pizza?
ReplyDeleteIt All Just Really depends on how each child is raised in each house hold. one parent can teach a boy its ok for a boy to play with dolls and be girly and the other family can teach the boy to look down at those grily things. Women like you said are taught how to take care of others, but anyone including little boys can be taught the same thing.
ReplyDeleteIf that makes any sense at all. haha
DeleteIf that makes any sense at all. haha
DeleteIt All Just Really depends on how each child is raised in each house hold. one parent can teach a boy its ok for a boy to play with dolls and be girly and the other family can teach the boy to look down at those grily things. Women like you said are taught how to take care of others, but anyone including little boys can be taught the same thing.
ReplyDeleteI agree about the mother getting custody more often than the father, but I have seen cases where the woman will fight but the man will still get custody because he has a good enough job to support the children while in some cases the woman does not. I feel that some fathers have a different way of showing love than buying a baby doll, maybe they go to the park together or see a movie or eat together. Parents have a different way of showing love. Also, I agree, pizza rolls are great :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you on the fact that women are more likely awarded custody and all. But I would have to disagree with you on how fathers are at a disadvantage when it comes to caring for a child. Yes, this may apply to the majority, but not all cases are part of the majority. My dad takes care of myself and my sister all on his own and I think he does a pretty great job at it. Not saying that anything you said was misleading in anyway because it wasn't! Just thought I'd share my story, plus I like Pizza Rolls too:)
ReplyDeleteI can see where you're coming from. When I was writing this post I was speaking from personal experience because I come from a divorced household and my father was, thankfully, awarded custody. He struggled for several months after being awarded custody because he was never taught how to cook and things of that nature. He thankfully got the hang of it rather quickly. Gotta love dads :)
DeleteI totally agree with you on the fact that women are more likely awarded custody and all. But I would have to disagree with you on how fathers are at a disadvantage when it comes to caring for a child. Yes, this may apply to the majority, but not all cases are part of the majority. My dad takes care of myself and my sister all on his own and I think he does a pretty great job at it. Not saying that anything you said was misleading in anyway because it wasn't! Just thought I'd share my story, plus I like Pizza Rolls too:)
ReplyDeleteI agree with IGGBYE because that is how I was raised and brought up.
ReplyDeletewhy is everything duplicating?
ReplyDeleteI agree with IGGBYE because that is how I was raised and brought up.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all...I love your title. I'd prefer pizza rolls as well. To the issue at hand, however, I don't think it is fair that men usually lose custody over their children in the case of divorce. And it is true that the men usually have the means, while the women have the required skills, to take care of children. I do not mean to say that women can't go out and get a job to support her children, or the man can't learn the skills. But men do get paid more for doing the same job as a female does. And there's the baby changing station issue going on right now too: Why are there no baby changing stations in men's restrooms?? These seem to be reasons to stay married in the first place. Before you get angry about that, I realize that there are cases that divorce would be the best option, the safest option. But lately I've had reason to believe that not all marriages end for legitimate reasons or reasons that can be worked out. I'm not finished with this but Coleman is talking now so I will elaborate later
ReplyDeleteI agree with a lot of your points! It does seem like more marriages are being ended over trivial things. Do you think this could be caused by how frivolously teenagers date and how we condition ourselves to end a relationship whenever it gets slightly rocky?
DeleteOne thing I don't agree with though is your mentioning of the gender based wage gap. The statistic that women make 77 cents for every dolls a man makes doing the same job is a statistic that is being grossly misused compared to the actual data taken. The study averaged up the total amount of money women make a year versus the total amount of money men make in a year. Different and individual jobs weren't looked at. While, yes we on averages make less than men we have to look at what job fields men and women enter. For example, women tend to choose being a teacher or nurse over being a professor or surgeon, and it's the opposite for men. I'll try to find a link to an article that better explains this.
To bring this back around to the original topic, do you think gender roles influence how men and women choose careers and job fields?
Here is a link that better explains why the wage gap myth is just that - a myth. It written by Christian Hoff Sommers, a well known feminist :)
Deletehttp://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/2073804
Pizza the food of the gods, crafted from cheese, sauces, dough, and any number of toppings. It doesn't matter what form the pizza is. just as long as it is pizza.
ReplyDeleteYes. In most divorce cases, the mother gets custody.
ReplyDeleteBut in this case, the males have the short end of the stick. My mother is a single mom and she has custody because, shortly, my dad is not a good person. I would have lived a much worse life had my father gotten custody of myself and my siblings. But, I don't believe my mom received custody simply because she is a woman.
I feel like there is some stereotyping going on here. If both parents are good people, I think split-custody is common. If the mother is not a good person, the father will get custody. That's just how it is.
It's not like the court decides the custody based on gender alone. There is a huge, long process. It is not fun for neither parent nor child.
I don't believe men are less-equipped at being parents. The only thing they cannot due is breast-feed. Sure, women play with barbie dolls at young age, but that does not make them any better parents. I know people who live with their fathers and do just fine. Sure, it's hard living without a mother figure but isn't it the same for those without a father?
Statistically, yes, most mothers receive custody. However, it is not based on gender alone and the stereotyping is not helping to eliminate gender roles at all.
I certainly hope that custody of children isn't awarded solely based on gender an gender stereotypes, but can you see how these can play into a judges decision?
DeleteI completely agree with this!! Men can love more homey things and women can love more tough guy stuff and each can love a blend of both! Pizza rolls not gender roles!
ReplyDeleteI agree. My uncle and his wife are going through a divorce right now. My uncle has been in the military since he was 17 (he is now 32) and he was forced into early retirement. He has a steady job now, and makes a good income. His soon to be ex wife, however, is an alcoholic, lives with an abusive boyfriend (whom she had been with while my uncle was away at war) and she leaves their daughter home alone...she is 3 years old. However, because she is the mom, she has the majority custody.
ReplyDeleteI agree. My uncle and his wife are going through a divorce right now. My uncle has been in the military since he was 17 (he is now 32) and he was forced into early retirement. He has a steady job now, and makes a good income. His soon to be ex wife, however, is an alcoholic, lives with an abusive boyfriend (whom she had been with while my uncle was away at war) and she leaves their daughter home alone...she is 3 years old. However, because she is the mom, she has the majority custody.
ReplyDeleteOkay i want to start off with
ReplyDeleteA. LOVE that title it is great!!
B. My father is so much better of a mom then my mom was or ever will be, nothing against my mother though. My mom works everyday, all day, but my dad is always home. He drives me and my siblings to our practices, watches all our games, cooks our meals, cleans our house, and even sometimes helps us pick out outfits or does our hair. He's a great man as well, firefighter, hunter, tall, muscular, fisherman, and drives a truck. Not much is more manly, so I believe that yes mothers may get more of the custody of children, but it's very wrong to just assume that men can't be as good as "mothers" as women can.
I think that men are really good fathers.. My uncle now has full custody of two kids, just because they Were abused by their mother. Their mother still tries to get a hold of them, but u=in my own personal opinion I really don't think that she should be talking to them. They have a new mother in there life.. A much better one.. So this kinda proves that Males could take care of kids on their own
ReplyDeleteI think that men are really good fathers.. My uncle now has full custody of two kids, just because they Were abused by their mother. Their mother still tries to get a hold of them, but u=in my own personal opinion I really don't think that she should be talking to them. They have a new mother in there life.. A much better one.. So this kinda proves that Males could take care of kids on their own
ReplyDeleteI think that men are really good fathers.. My uncle now has full custody of two kids, just because they Were abused by their mother. Their mother still tries to get a hold of them, but u=in my own personal opinion I really don't think that she should be talking to them. They have a new mother in there life.. A much better one.. So this kinda proves that Males could take care of kids on their own
ReplyDeleteNot all mothers are fit to be mothers. In my life I have seen more fathers take care of the children than the mothers. I have seen multiple cases where the mothers have abandoned her kids and left the father to take care of them. Making the father have to work more than he has to to keep him and the child from living on the streets.
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